Ecclesiastes 4:12 says
"Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken."
During our engagement this verse became "our verse". It moved us, rebuked us and reminded us to continually grow in our love for God and not simply our love for each other. It was the verse we held dear on our wedding day, and it's a verse we continually strive to live out daily. It's not always easy, but having a husband who always reminds me to spend time with God and not spend all my time on things that aren't as important is refreshing and encouraging. As much as I am called to be his helpmate, my husband is constantly in my corner helping me to be a better woman, a better wife, and a better friend.In two months of marriage we've started to settle into our daily routines, and we're always learning to do new things in order to better serve the other. Tim's learnt how to make the yummiest cup of tea, and how to fold the towels just right so they fit into the linen closet like a tetris game. I've learnt new yummy recipes to fill his stomach with delight, and how to better support him in ministry. Every day is a give and take and some days we are asked to give a little extra.
Last night we talked about how sweet it is to never really say goodbye anymore. During our dating years, goodbye usually meant "I don't know when I'll see you again." Then we'd go weeks without seeing each other or sometimes even months. But now goodbye means only being apart for a few hours. It's such a dramatic change, but probably the sweetest change of them all. "Always being with my best friend, is my favorite thing about marriage right now", said my husband.
And we are truly that: best friends.
Now, more than ever.
A few weeks ago a friend emailed me and something she said has since stuck with me, "I still love being married--it's always a gift but there's something so sweet in those first few days, weeks and months. You never have them again. "
Sometimes when we are doing stuff together like buying furniture or rearranging the house, fixing broken things already in our house, or even putting the dishes away it feels like our life is the epitome of a newlywed sitcom, but better. Learning to live life together is so fun, it's hilarious and hard work, and this beginning stage will never happen again. We are collecting so many stories to tell our kids one day and we are excited for the stories that are to come.
Timothy, these two months have been the sweetest two months I've every known.
I love that you are not only my best friend, but you are my family, and my love.
Thank you for these two months.